- Pushes families to breaking point
- the more compulsive the bigger the problem
Allion
- 41 year old Allison - lady bird collector
- "Obsessively buying multiples of the same item"
- devotion to lady birds
- 40 thousand pounds spent
- fear of missing something
- "comforting to know that theres plenty and not going to run out of them"
- "Ladybirds is the only thing"
- "If i buy the lot at least I won't know any body else will have them"
- Husband can't stand the mess
- Can't remember the good times.
- preserving her childhood
- so wound up the littlest things bother her
- become over sensitive
- create tension between her and husband. He feels second best.
- serious impact on relationship
- challenge is her emotional attachment to things
Joe
- 62 year old sunday school teacher Joe
- cares for the children and looks after them
- her pupils and colleagues have no idea about her hoarding
- just about has walk ways in her house
- tunnelling to get to the dining room.
- can't stop collecting teaching materials in case her pupils need them
- vast hoard thats piled high
- teaching for 40 years
- tretuous hazard
- lots of off date food
- dining tables not been seen in over 3 years
- her friend of 2 decades hasn't been allowed in her house for 7 years.
- she feels ashamed
- gets her down
- trips over things
- husband john passed away 3 years ago.
- 2 sons grown up and living their own lives
- fear of becoming little old lady squashed in the mess
- he feels oppressed and claustrophobic and stagnant being in the bedroom
- "where do i go from here?" - when husband died
- room was empty before her husband died.
- spiralled out of control
- 32 years of marriage
- complete and utter despair when he was told he had cancer
- her way of coping 'security blanket'
- items/things replace humans - you have a sense that they cannot abandon you.
- its all an illusion
- false sense of security
- task to put toys into 6 different boxes and gives toys to charity or selling them.
- invites friend to help clean hoard
- "were just putting stuff from one side to the other"
- nothing she can part with willingly
- empty chair technique: where the patient is encouraged to talk to someone who is no longer in their life.
- imagine he's sat there with them
- angry he's left her
- constantly miss him
- didn't expect I'm to go so early
- trying to fill the gap with things
- emptiness of him going - filled the gaps with things she can control
- had so much loss in her life that she has no control over
- doesn't want to throw out plastic tub incase she might need it
Stelios gets Joe and Allison to meet
- they get massaged in hope that the relaxed surroundings get them to open up to each other
- retail therapy
- magazines is her escapism (Joe)
- interesting experience - tremendous amount in common
Joe
- To make it easier to get rid of things they said that all her things will go to a charity
- 'if it inspires the next generation then great'
Allion (since clear out)
- before: was over attached
- unburdening her self
- feels lighter
- can enjoy the things she has now
Joe (since clear out)
- so much more light and airy
- moving on
All 4 (2013) The hoarder next door. Available at: http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-hoarder-next-door/on-demand/55432-002 (Accessed: 2 November 2015).
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